There’s thousands of theory’s and tactics that people will tell you are the best ways of coping with depression or any other down period in your life. Many a Dr has made a ton of money because they have discovered ways to medicate or treat patients when they are in their time of most need. These things are fantastic and have so many success stories, but if the patient lacks resilience, they are essentially fucked. You can give a depressed human a book full of ways to get through their battles but if they don’t have the will to at least try to make it through the day, it’s as good as useless.
In my opinion, resilience is something that is trained and grows stronger through the build up of experience and knowledge that you’ve successfully been through bad times before, and you have come out the other side. It isn’t something that is exclusive to only a few people, everyone has it. Some people acknowledge that every day they survive, their resilience has grown. Other people refuse to acknowledge their strength entirely. Stripping yourself of pride for continuing to choose to live is a massive disservice to you, and the people that love you. If you have battles in your head, you choose to get up and take them on, and then do it the next day, you’re brave as hell! That is resilience.
Finding pride in small victories is the only way through the colossal events your mind can create. Whenever I am in a dark place and my sole focus is expecting to wake up one morning and for it all to be over and back to normal, I am only pushing myself further into the hole. I am creating an expectation of something that is simply unlikely to just suddenly happen. 99% of the times I have come through depressed periods it is due to resilience. It has been from making the conscious decision to get up every morning and find some sort of victory to strive for. A lot of the time it won’t happen and you’ll go home drained of energy and not sure how you’re going to do tomorrow. Much to my own surprise, I and millions of other people always do.
Every day I am learning to become prouder of small victories and I hope others in the similar situations can do the same, it makes life a lot more of a positive thing to live.